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Happy 2019 : What I Have Learnt

I am sure everyone, including myself, has ambitions and goals to reach this year, as normal with every year. But before pursuing those goals I would love to reflect on the few things that I learnt in 2018.

This year has been challenging in different aspects like academically, personally, spiritually and emotionally so to speak. It was not all that easy to experience most things but I am glad that I did because if it was not for those challenges I would not have learnt the many things that I did about myself.

I learnt that it is okay to express how you feel. It is okay to feel happy, sad, angry, not in the mood or whatever you may be feeling in that moment, but it is important not to let your emotions take over you. I realized that whenever I felt down I would try to hide it because I usually portray a "happy image" towards people and that would affect me when I was alone because all those emotions that I’ve been suppressing would come out. So to avoid that from happening I do not hide how I feel.

It is okay to make mistakes, as long as we learn from them. I believe that it is our mistakes that drive us to become better people. Without them we would not be able to refer to what we need to change.

If you are at peace with it, then that is all that matters. My sister always says that if something costs you your peace it is very expensive. And it is true, whatever it may be, a choice you have made, a desire that you may have or something you might have said, if you are at peace with it that is all that matters regardless of what others may say but if not then you obviously need to address it.

Earrings - Lovisa
Top and Jeans - Truworths
Overlay - Mom's
Heels - The Fix

I look forward to 2019 and all the experiences that wait ahead. I look forward to nothing but growth this year. What do you look forward to in this new year? Comment down below, I would love to hear from you.

These photographs were shot by the talented Hesper Photographer. Their Instagram handle is @hesper_photography, do check them out.

Remember that God loves you and so do I.

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Friday, January 11, 2019
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My Hair Journey

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I am back again with another one this week but I decided to do things a bit differently this time around. I would like to share my hair journey with you. Over a year ago, 28 January 2017 to be exact, I cut my hair to an almost non-existent length. In the beginning I felt awkward because I have always had a full head of hair since I was about 6 years old. So I was not familiar with the shape of my head. But with time I got used to the short hair and appreciated my facial features more as they were more exposed of course.

As my hair grew I began braiding it and doing different protective styles to keep stretching it. I was happy that I could finally do something with my hair instead of waking up and not being able to style it in anyway, which is one of the challenges of having short hair. Then came the awkward stage.

The most frustrating thing about this stage for me is having to deal with shrinkage. It is the worst. And combing my hair out every morning was just as frustrating which kept me braiding my hair and doing protective styles over and over again. By this time I had a wig made for me which did make life easier no lie. Some days when I was just not in the mood to comb my hair I just throw the wig on and carry on with my day.

Earlier this year, February 2018, the thought of applying a texturizer to my hair came up. A texturizer is a form of a relaxer that is applied to curly or kinky hair for a short while to loosen the curl pattern. I was in between with doing it because I was afraid of the process going the wrong way, which would have been fully relaxing my hair again defeating the whole objective of growing an afro. So I did my research on texturizing and found out that it would loosen my curls making my hair soft enough to maintain and comb through but still having that kink. So what did your girl do? I went ahead with it and I regretted it in the first week. My hair looked so awkward and the only thing I could do with was a high puff.

I then braided my hair hoping it would go back to original texture and shape which it sort of did but it was and still is a bit stretched, hence the current length of it. My hair is more kinky than it was after I had texturized it.

This is my hair after it had been in cornrows for a while.

I’m actually glad I went ahead with it because my hair responded quite well to the texturizer. The only thing that I don’t like is that my ends do get quite dry after some time but other than that I love my hair in its current state.

This is my hair after being washed, conditioned and moisturized. No heat was used to dry my hair.

I don’t necessarily have a hair regime or specific hair products that I use religiously. I am still trying things out after all this is a journey. But I will share with you products that I have and am using.

From left to right :
Organics Shampoo and Conditioner (for dry and damaged hair)
Dark and Lovely : Au Naturale Knot-out Conditioner
Dark and Lovely : Au Naturale Afro Moisturizing Butter
Caivil : Naturals Marula Oil Hair & Scalp Oil Sealant

Don't forget to comment below what your favourite natural hair products are, I would love to hear from you.

Remember God loves you and so do I.

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